Saturday, November 26, 2011

Adapting to change


Hi everyone,

The Boy is 17 months now. Life after having him has been a roller coaster but there are definitely more ups than downs. Before having The Boy, I had all these plans in place. Plans on how I was going to sleep train him, educate him, entertain him, photograph him…the list goes on and on. Much like my birth plan, most of my other plans either got tossed out the window or changed as we learned to be parents.  

I had the ambitious plan to take one photo a day of The Boy, for the first year of his life, using the DSLR for “high” quality pictures. It started off well but turned into a challenge sometimes. It’s hard to wrangle a big, heavy camera and a baby at the same time. I started to rely on the trusty smartphone to take some of my pictures. The quality was not as great as the DSLR but they were still very good. I had the added bonus of taking videos with my smartphone too. I must admit, I did miss a day or two (around the holidays) but I did manage to get my project done. Now I look at that album and can’t believe all of the change in one year.

The other thing I promised myself I would not do was depend on TV or PCs (screens) really to entertain my son. Of course, I had to change my way of thinking. Especially as he got older, I needed some help while I cleaned up from his increasing messy meal times. Short education videos help me out.  Now he happily watches videos on the PC or iPad for a few minutes while I decontaminate the kitchen. The bonus is that he’s learning the alphabet and counting (I’m hoping). Videos and games on my smartphone are super helpful for public meltdowns. A little distraction geos a long way.

The biggest things I’ve learned since becoming a parent is plan for you plans to change. Babies have a mind of their own and quite often, they refuse to cooperate. But, I wouldn’t have it any other way!
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XO,
Lucky

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Having a baby gives you a new option for gift giving…especially for the grandparents

Hi everyone,

I knew things were going to change when I had The Boy but there were some really unexpected changes.  The minutes I had him the centre of my universe shifted to him. My extreme appreciation for my Mom was not something I expected. I felt guilty for all the times I was a brat, now that I understood what she went through with pregnancy and labour (drugs for me, not for her, thanks Mommy!).

The other thing I did not expect was people’s reactions to the new baby. My husband’s transition into fatherhood was amazing to watch. I still love it. He was the one who shouted “it’s a boy!” even before the doctor. I loved watching my family and friends meet The Boy for the first time.  I love watching people falling in love with him

Last year, The Boy’s first Christmas. We stumbled across a great idea for presents for the grandparents at Indigo. We are not lacking food and shelter. Everyone has so much stuff and we really don’t need anything (except winning lotto numbers and a maid service).  The grandparents however, could not get enough time with The Boy and could not get enough of his pictures.  We did a couple of things. We took photos of The Boy, in our home, using our DSLR, I wrote a little diddy and we made our own Christmas card. It was a big hit, a lot of people still have it on their fridges. It’s a little cheesy, I know, showing off your kid but he’s so cute! For the grandparents, we made “brag books” and Indigo.  The Boy happened to be 6 months last December and the brag books we found had six spots for photos. We took one photo from each month since his birth and made our Christmas presents for his grandparents. They were not expensive either (between $12-$16) and they are still the favourite. We are even  asked for updated books.

If you are on a budget and want to cut down on spending and really buying crap no one really ones, I suggest photos for the grandparents. Check out what Indigo is doing this year (they are not paying me, I just really like their stuff) - http://www.chapters.indigo.ca/photogifts/. They have cool gifts for everyone really. This year, I plan on expanding on the photo thing and offering up sleepovers, a win for Baby Daddy and me and the grandparents.

How are you tackling the holidays? Check out what the Intel Canada folks are doing.

Who wouldn't want to see this face everyday?
All the grandparents ever want (kiddies only, not the floating arms)

These little sweet feet are the best presents ever!

 
XO,
Lucky

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Working Mom Guilt

Hi friends,

I’m not the first and I won’t be the last to experience Working Mom Guilt. Doesn’t make it suck any less though. Moms are judged so harshly. You’re judged if you stay at home to raise your child, you’re judged if you go back to work. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

I’m not sure how to deal with Working Mom Guilt (WMG). My job is very demanding, especially now because we in the midst of our busy season. I’m also new at this job so I have the added stress of a steep learning curve.  I don’t have the opting of clocking in and clocking out at specific times, there is always work to be done but I make sure that I spend time with The Boy. He’s my stress  relief.

I wish I could stay at home with him instead of going to work and sending him to daycare but I have bills and a mortgage to pay. When I was on mat leave, I sometimes missed the adult interaction. Can’t win either way. The challenge for me is to unplug and spend time with The Boy and not feel guilty if can’t get everything done in a work day. I have to teach myself that work is called work for a reason.

How do working moms do it? How do singe working moms do it? I have new heroes.

XO,
Lucky

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

People suck.

Hi guys,

People are stupid. I know, I know, not all people are stupid. I tend to make generalizations when I’m felling especially crumudgeony.  I spent most of the past year in the baby bubble so I forgot how grumpy, mean, judgy, finger pointy and nasty grownups can be.  Some people just don’t get the whole flies and honey concept. Do mean people derive pleasure from dumping on other people? I think the fake nice people are even worse than the outright mean people, they lull you into thinking they are nice and then bam! Nastiness.

The other thing that bugs me is those people that always have to be right. Those people also waste no time in making you feel like an idiot for not know something (give the new girl a break for Pete’s sake). Instead of being lovely and helpful, they ask you questions they know you do not have the answer to make themselves feel superior. Morons…

I’m just grumpy because I miss The Boy when I’m at work. I do have pleasant interactions with adults but it’s the unpleasant incidents that can sour an entire day or week. Enough venting, I’m going to eat some Nutella with a spoon straight out of the jar and then kiss my sleeping boy. He never makes me feel like a dummy (yet).

Ok, sometimes he looks at me like I'm a dummy but he makes up for it in cuteness

XO,
Lucky

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Introvert to extrovert to introvert ish…

Hi friends,
 
I often write about how indispensable technology is in my life. I’m addicted reliant on technology, it makes so many things so much easier. But…I don’t think it always is a plus. Technology has allowed me to do a lot of great things but it also is a gateway to introvertism (I made up that word but I like it so I’m keeping it).

I used to be way more shy and less confident than I am now (don’t get me wrong, I’m not brimming with confidence now, but I’m better than I was).  Then I got older and stopped caring as much about what idiots did or said or thought, I became less shy. I became more of an extrovert.  I became surer of myself. I trusted my decisions.  I also embraced technology more and more. I found myself emailing, texting and IMing more and making phone calls less.

Lately, I’ve noticed something about myself, I seem reluctant to make a phone call if I have the option to email or IM.   I think this started when I was on mat leave, it was often easier to email or send a text from my smartphone while I was nursing the baby or while he was napping. It was not always easy to talk on the phone  and sometimes I just wanted quiet. I could compose my thoughts better and more importantly , share photos too. Now that I’ve gone back to work, I still find it easier to email, especially if it means avoiding speaking to someone with a particularly aggressive personality.  I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I prefer not to have unnecessary stress.

I’m comfortable with my re-introduction to introvertism. Technology has given me options for communicating. I still use the phone but I like knowing that I don’t always have to. Email lets me think about what I want to say and do it more clearly than I may have on the phone but nothing beats a great phone call with a friend or colleague. I love hearing the smile in someone’s voice. Just the other day one phone call turned my crappy day around. Hearing The Boy say “mama” on the phone diffuses a bad day.


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XO,
Lucky

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Oh, the things I can do!

Hi Everyone,

Like most people out there, I want an iPhone. It’s the commercials that get me. Play to my emotions and I’m yours. I, unfortunately, do not have n iPhone, I do have a smartphone. The phone I have won out because it was free with my contract. I was on mat leave at the time so a limited mat leave budget meant that free won out. My phone is no iPhone but it’s still pretty cool.

I take for granted the things I can do on my phone. I think it may more powerful that my first computer. The main things I reply on though (aside from making and actual phone call) are my apps. Who know that smartphone apps would be so prevalent today? I wish I had a crystal ball (and the skills), I would have made my own apps. Celebrity marriage destruction counter? I would have rocked that.

I use apps before I even get out of bed. Am I addicted? Maybe. I have a Wi-Fi camera in The Boy’s room and an app on my phone that allows me to access that camera. The first thing I do and the last thing I do at night is look in on him on my phone. I can even check in on him if I’m out and he’s home with Baby Daddy. It is awesome. I love being a stalker Mom. He’s just so cute that I can’t help it.

Besides my Facebook and twitter apps, I think I use the weather app most frequently. You always need to be prepared right? Especially with a squirmy toddler, it always helps to know how much wrangling I have to do to get him into his layers of clothes.

I think I may have gone a little overboard with my apps. I have apps fun apps (games, Shazam etc.), apps for “productivity and organization” (flight tracker, banking, etc.), apps for daily life (Google maps, compass, knowing how to treat a fever, Groupon, movies) and social networking apps because I need to stay in touch always.  There are a lot that I install and never use, thinking that I would. I have to do a clear out one day but for now I like to be prepared.

It’s no iPhone but until it dies and I can get a free iPhone mu apps laden smartphone will have to do. After all, I can do so much more today that I could a few short years ago.

What cool things can you do? See what my friends at Intel Canada are up to at https://www.facebook.com/IntelCanada

Without a smartphone, i would not have been able to capture the awesomeness in this pic and share via several social networking sites at once.


XO,
Lucky